If you are grieving the loss of a loved one,
you know that holidays are some of the toughest times of the year.
We reached out to several members of our online community who have experienced different types of losses, are of different ages/genders/social status/religion or no religion, and are at various number of years since their loss occurred to get their stories and thoughts on how they get thru Holidays themselves.
Their general advice was for us to include links to some of the articles that have been written on suggestions about getting thru the holidays,
which you will find at the end of this page.
However, their unanimous advice
keep it real and not rose-colored the experience of the holidays.
- Please know that while we hope you are one of the fortunate people grieving that seem to be able to get thru the holidays following some or all of the advice and suggestions given by some of the articles shared below,
- The reality for most of us in this group of contributors is that
the "Holidays" are going to be painful for each of us and
that pain can vary with the number of years since your loss,
the type of loss you have experienced,
your support network, and
your holiday grieving strategy.
Yes - your holiday grieving strategy,
which is as unique to each of us as our DNA.
Also, please know that most of us have found that regardless of
how wealthy you are or are not,
money will not lessen the challenge of grieving thru the holidays.
After you have acknowledged
the challenge of getting thru the holidays,
felt it, and
accepted the fact that holidays are painful for millions of people grieving worldwide - including ourselves - you are on your way to not just getting thru it, but on a mission to device the strategy that will work best for you.
First thing each of us needs to do is
to be good to ourselves,
don't let alcohol, drugs, smoking, overeating
or any other negative physical/mental influences
take over your holiday grieving process,
and if you fear that one or more of these are taking over or have taken over -
Please stop reading this and
seek immediate and
urgent mental health help
by calling your local emergency number (in the USA - it is usually 911)
Some of the advice given in the articles below
may seem absolutely ridiculous for many of us,
but the key is to read thru all these advice and tips stories and
write down the ones that might work for you.
Test them out, and
among all the failures many of us found -
we also found 1 or 2 that have actually helped,
and you will too.
You may need to cry, to shout out, to run, to talk, to seek mental health and/or grief support, to travel, to walk, to connect with others facing similar type of loss, to volunteer at a food pantry, or whatever you need to do -
it is your own unique holiday grieving strategy.
never forget, that like you and us,
there are millions that grieved before us;
there are millions that are grieving now and
there will be millions that will grief after us -
so we are not the only ones facing this challenge on the Holidays or
in the grieving process we are now going thru, and
maybe some of what we learned
in developing our own strategy for getting thru the holidays
can be of help to others after us.
My Grief Angels Online Community and
"Grief Support Network" Mobile App Users'
on Advice & Tips for Getting thru the Holidays:
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/grief-tips-holidays_us_5a1c81f4e4b071403b287131 - How To Get Through Your First Holiday After Losing A Loved One
https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/what-mentally-strong-people-dont-do/201512/how-deal-grief-during-the-holidays - How to Deal with Grief During the Holidays
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/tips-for-managing-grief-during-the-holidays_us_5a1a16cfe4b0bf1467a84712 - Tips For Managing Grief During The Holidays
https://whatsyourgrief.com/64-tips-grief-at-the-holidays/ - 64 Tips for Coping with Grief at the Holidays
http://www.tuesdayschildren.org/wp-content/uploads/2013/09/coping-with-holiday-stress.pdf - Coping with Holiday Stress- Mayo Clinic and Cleveland Clinic Articles
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